All reads
Every entry on this desk, newest first. For a reading order, use start here; for the entries grouped by money, time and the family conversation, see the ledger on the front page.
- Sister does nothing for Mom
My sister does nothing for Mom and I do everything. 2026: a two-week hour log, one page she has to read, one job with her name on it, and what to do when she still will not.2026-09-11 - Siblings will not help with Mom
Your siblings will not help with an elderly parent. 2026: write the week, send one assignment with a date, cover the gap with Mom's money or a paid shift, and stop planning around 2026-09-11 - Siblings fighting over Mom's money
Siblings fighting over Mom's money and care in 2026: whose money pays first, CFPB rules for mixing accounts, one monthly page, and when the fight is no longer a family problem.2026-09-11 - Should the sibling who does the care get paid
Should the sibling who does the care get paid? 2026: a family yes is not a paycheck. Missouri Consumer Directed Services, a personal care agreement with Mom, VA options, and record2026-09-11 - Resentment toward siblings caregiving
Resentment toward siblings over caregiving in 2026: why the heat is usually an unwritten list, how to put hours and dollars on one page, and what to do with the feeling in a ten-mi2026-09-11 - How to ask siblings for money for Mom's care
How to ask siblings for money for Mom's care in 2026: Mom's money first, one monthly page, one specific bill with a date, and what to do when they still say no.2026-09-11 - How families decide who takes care of Mom
How do families decide who takes care of Mom in 2026? Inventory the week, match jobs to distance and skill, hold FCA's meeting with a chair who is not you, and cover leftover shift2026-09-11 - Closest sibling expected to do everything
Is it fair to expect the sibling who lives closest to do everything? 2026: why the closest daughter becomes the default, which jobs actually need a body in the house, and what the 2026-09-11 - Caregiver agreement between siblings
A caregiver agreement between siblings in 2026: what to write down before anyone is paid, how it differs from Mom paying you, CFPB recordkeeping, and why a signed page beats a grou2026-09-11 - Brother says put Mom in a home
My brother says put Mom in a home and I say no. 2026: stop arguing the rest of her life. Inventory what she needs this month, what Medicare will not pay, and a 30-day trial of help2026-09-11 - Tracking money spent on a parent
Keeping track of money spent on an elderly parent for siblings in 2026: the CFPB's recordkeeping rules for family members, one account, one receipts folder, one monthly summar2026-09-10 - St. Louis help when siblings disagree
Looking for an elder law attorney in St. Louis because siblings disagree about Mom's care? The four kinds of help in 2026: Aging Ahead and the city agency, mediation through t2026-09-10 - Split the cost of caring for a parent
How to split the cost of caring for elderly parents between siblings in 2026: whose money pays first, the four ways families divide the rest, labor-for-dollars credit, and the two-2026-09-10 - Paid to care for Mom in Missouri, 2026
Can I get paid to take care of my mother in Missouri in 2026? Consumer Directed Services under RSMo 208.900, personal care agreements, VA Aid and Attendance and PCAFC, and who deci2026-09-10 - POA sibling won't share information
Sibling with power of attorney won't share information? What a Missouri power of attorney requires of the agent under RSMo 404.714, the CFPB's four duties, what siblings 2026-09-10 - Family meeting about aging parents
How to have a family meeting about aging parents in 2026: who is invited, the one-page agenda from the Family Caregiver Alliance, who chairs, and the three questions to settle befo2026-09-10 - Divide caregiving tasks among siblings
How to divide caregiving tasks among siblings in 2026: the weekly task inventory, matching each job to distance, time, money and skill, why the far sibling takes the phone and mone2026-09-10 - Brother thinks Mom is fine
Brother thinks Mom is fine and won't pay for help? Trade opinions for records: Medicare's nine daily activities as a two-week log, a shared photo folder, and one weekend 2026-09-10